(the kids washing the window)
A quick progress report on my efforts to get my family more involved in household chores:
- The chore charts work. They work if I make them work and check them daily and remind people what their chores are.
- If I want my husband to wash dishes, I have to accept that he is going to do it at 9:30 or later at night, after the kids are in bed and cutting into whatever "adult" time we are going to have for the evening. He likes to sit and rest and either watch TV or play his nintendo ds after dinner, not jump right up to clean the kitchen. It drives me crazy to see those dishes sitting there waiting, and I like to have some time with him after the kids go to bed, but if I want him to wash the dishes, I will have to compromise both of those things.
- When the kids do some chores, I have to do them with them and it's actually MORE work for me. But this is probably the only way to teach them.
- I also have to accept a lower, or at least different, standard on any chore that someone else completes. I'm trying not to nit-pick their efforts too much.
- There is a LOT of whining and moaning about the horror of having to do things like wash dishes and take out the trash. I hope this will lessen with time, and right now I'm trying to block it out by humming my "happy song" really loud and driving them crazy.